Dear Mrs X, I have a confession for you. I love your husband. I know this is the wrong time but I cannot hide it in me anymore. When I met you, you went on and on about how your husband was not man enough for you. Though you admitted that he provides for you and your kids very well…you still went on to say that you wish you could turn back the hands of time and he would feature nowhere in your life. I pitied you-coz I had always perceived you as a woman of style. It did not hit me for one minute that with your designer clothes and shoes, you would be unhappy. I looked at you and agreed with my moms saying that money, after all, cannot buy happiness.
I had so much pity for you until I met your husband. When he first walked in the club where I was having drinks with my gals….I thought to myself. “That’s a stylish guy”. Soon rumours were going round the table…somebody said eti that was your husband. I denied passionately saying that the man you had described to me could not be him. I mean, you said he was useless – the dude in the club did not look an inch useless.
After some research, I found out that he was your husband. Coincidentally on a rainy Friday jioni he gave me a lift home. Chit chat here and there and I confirmed that this was definitely not a useless man. He dropped me home and told me he was going for a drink. I offered to join him anyway. My friendship with your husband went on for a long time. He is a nice warm guy. He is the exact opposite of the man you described to me.
During one weekend, he confided in me that he wanted to take you away from the hustles and bustles of the city. He even cried when he narrated to me how you had first fallen in love and how things were falling apart day by day. He saw this as an opportunity to try and mend things…but what did you do? You told him that your mother was waiting for you upcountry. Of all the things, you failed to mention to your husband whom you live with under the same roof, that you had plans. Once again you broke his heart.
I know this will geek your little heart but I spent the long week-end with your husband. Hey….don’t blame me. He already had reservations and I accompanied him as a friend. Am sorry though: On reaching there, things got terribly out of hand and the obvious happened. It was warm.
I know I love your husband. I know I can give him what you will never give him – love and appreciation. So please let me love him. Am not after his money like you are because am sure if he was a poor guy you would have divorced him. Yesterday he told me that he feels like a teenager again – that feeling of loving and being loved is back. I love being with him. I remember you told me you cannot stand him. Thanks for this piece of information. I love spending my time with him and I will do everything to make sure that you lose him.
Am sorry I had to do this. But I just wanted to let you know that I LOVE YOUR HUSBAND!!
Its me who needs no introduction
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Dear Sister,
I put it to you that you lack self esteem, sence of responsibility and you are total disgrace to yourself and other irresponsible sisters. If you are wise and sensible as you little mind tells you then why dont you be responsible enough to find your own partner instead of deceiving your self to be a relationship expert thinking that gives you direct access to damage other peoples relationships. Find your own husband and try to show your experty-marriage is not always about goodies and warmth.
You are inexpirienced thats why you think that you are an expert. You know what? Many peoples husbands will lay you and dump you and claim that it you who is pursuing them. Where is your brain babe? If you are such a babe then where is your own partner? Coz they see through you right away you think men are stupid-they know their targets for specific agendas-before you know it you will have!!!!!!
I thought his was meant to be a joke and not real. Could someone tell me if this thing did really happen?
sisters it`s a good word,well done but sad too
This is a typical home-wrecker and predator who pries on other women’s husbands at pubs, Kenyan functions or the church, luring them into illicit, secret and passionate love affairs. This is life in Kenya-Stockholm being relived a thousand times.
We have heard of such examples over the years. We know of married women who have found out that their husbands have been having affairs with their best friends. One Kenyan man was once hit on the head by his wife with a frying pan when caught cheating.
We know of a bitter Kenyan woman who has been confronting an ex-boyfriend at various Kenyan parties because he dumped her and is now married with family. He once chased her around a party joint after she reminded him of their affair.
Such women are always amidst us fulfilling what they know best; having affairs with married men in Kenya-Stockholm, to revenge or just to show the other woman that she is nothing. It is not about low self-esteem, but about the hidden beast in them that is insatiable and must look for blood to suck.
As a man, I feel that if the guy’s wife doesn’t appreciate him after all the help he has provided her, then this is the outcome. Where there is smoke, there is fire. It’s obvious that the husband would not be spending time with his secret lover if there was peace at home.
Instead of engaging in an adulterous affair, this man should divorce his wife and marry the lover since they have chemistry. There is no need of living in misery just because one has to be married.
He should separate from his wife and have an open relationship with his girlfriend; otherwise his marriage will end up bitterly. We only live once so it’s pointless suffering in the hands of an unloving wife!
Osewe: this must be a reflection of similar happenings in our Stockholm community. Probably a disappointed man who worked so hard to bring his wife from Jamhuri, then she gets silly by listening to some usual male and female losers our social circles.
I see a husband who lives under constant threats from his wife whose fingers can dial 112 in a heratbeat to bring 5 Volvos packed with the blue-shirts, ready with tear gas and batons to hound him into their cells.
After working hard to build a family, the frustrations mounted by his wife have turned him to the lover who sees his good nature and believes she can provide him a more condusive environment filled with love.
As we have heard and witnessed a number of times, some women ape the Western culture of freedom without understanding it, thus breaking their own marriages.
Yes, you married woman, your husband is now gone because this story shows that there is distrust in your marriage. By this lover coming out in the open to declare her love, the married woman is toast.
I can hear divorce bells ringing and nothing is more horrifying than being stuck with kids whose father only visits according to State rules. The woman should prepare to bear the biggest burden of taking care of their kids soon.
What happened to “loyalty” to your friend? How can u do this to her? A true friend would never betray her girlfiend for a man and i this case getting busy with her husband. Every marriage has its ups and downs, u would have talked to you friend and point out to her the negativities she had about her husband and ask he to maybe appeciate the qualities he has. But I guess that you are too selfish and think that you are better and want him for yourself. You will be so disappointed coz he will never leave his wife to be with you! If he does leave his wife, you will only be a rebound girlfriend and in no time he will finally dump you! Women should be sticking together not stubbing each others backs, get a man of your own believe me there are good single men out there!
It is surprising to see how all the people commenting readily condemn the woman, and yet there are two people involved in the saga. Does this mean the man is innocent in the affair? Did this so called wayward woman put a gun to his head or coerce him into a relationship in any way? You can take the cow to the river but cannot force it to drink. The man should confront his wife, end that relationship before embarking on another. He should be a man, show he has cojones and have some decency to do the right thing. Kwani?
Muigai: Commentator no. 5 has pointed out that the man should separate from his wife instead of engaging in an adulterous affair, so he sees it differently. It means not all are targeting the woman harshly as you generalize.
The grapevine says the wife’s dealings are worse than the husband’s. Therefore, some Kenyans claim that the man should demand a DNA test of their recently born baby.
Our sisters`conffession has all to do with loyalty,i dare say that she is brave to state what she just did,”I am in LOVE with your X” WE´ve been having all sorts of affairs going on underground,but none so brave and forthright like our sisters,and she has been brave enough to come out in the open, let alone go public to KSB.KSB KUDOS!!for publishing this article,had it been slunderous ,you would not have done it.I think we need more women and men to come out in the open to repress gossip of distruction.As Catherine Mtwala put it(celebrated uganda auther)”One womans poison is another ones elixir”,go girl,you made a once desolusioned family man happy,bright,feels young again,productive and LOVED.Sister out there be warned,it is your home gals,who are out on the prawl to take over your hubbies…….and i like it.Let the games begin.
I don’t think anyone is to blame here…
The married woman openly shared her feelings of her husband. She herself said that she no longer wanted to be married to the man. This says to me that she was no longer willing to try to work things out with her husband. She was no longer in love, therefore she was forfeiting her marriage.
The husband comes along. Not only has he not given up on love, he hasn’t yet given up on his marriage. He wants, he yearns for a second chance at loving his wife again. The wife denies him. This is evidence of problems existing before the other woman ever even being in the picture.
Now here comes this woman from the outside looking in. And, might I point out, she was INVITED to look in. She was minding her own business before the wife AND the husband came turning to her. She listened to the wife’s side of the story. She didn’t go in to investigate nor did she get any other information before feeling sympathy from what the wife has told her.
THEN, when she meets the husband and finds out that he is the opposite of what the wife has told her, she begins to make her own judgements. She also meets a new man. A man that wants to be loved, that has been reaching out and has been finding nothing on the other end. What is this other woman supposed to do? Close her own heart?
And also, SHE IS COMING OUT WITH IT! She is at least being frank. She isn’t hiding her feelings and isn’t lying to her friend. There are women out there that would have done all of this and Not once have been able to speak a word of it to the wife.
If a marriage is bound to be over, than it will be. It’s just a matter of time. And there is no one to blame but the people that keep it going, knowing that they belong to someone else.