“All people calling me should stop doing so“
Mr. Osewe, I am requesting you to publish my message so that I can get it out to all people out there who are disturbing me. I am a 15 year-old girl from Kenya and I’ve been thrown out of our house several times by my mom. She once took my keys in front of social service authorities and said that I would not come home again so I had to stay with her friend for 6 months.
Now I have been thrown out again the fourth time. I have been living with my friends for two weeks until the social workers placed me in a Turkish social home where I stayed for a week until my mom’s friend contacted me and told me to come home and stay with her. Now I live with her. She has known me since I was four years old and I feel really good about her.
Now my mom wants me to come home again after six months and I said no because I do not want to be thrown out again. I have a lot to think about because I will soon leave school and I have to concentrate on my schoolwork.
There have been very many Kenyans who have been involved in this and I cannot stand a bunch of people I do not know calling me all the time telling me to return home. Because they know my mom, they call me and say they want to talk to me about how I feel and why I do not want to move home again.
I’m fine, things are going well for me in school and I want peace and quiet now in my life. I have tried several times to tell social services that I do not want to move back home and that I can instead have a good relationship with my mother instead of staying with her, but they do not listen to me. I do not know whether they think that I am still a little child who does not know what she’s talking about. I just want to say to all Kenyans and Tanzanians calling me that I am having a good time. I do not want the mass of people who are not involved calling me all the time. They should not interfere!!
None of those calling me all the time called me before when I was thrown out so why call now when I am having it good? I cannot stand the mass of unnecessary fuss about where I should live, whom to live with and why I have chosen to do what I am doing. It is enough now! I was thrown out in 2007, 2008, 2009 and 2010.
Today is 2011 and if those people did not call me all the other times, calling me now is like stalking me. I will make a police report if they continue to call me. We live in Sweden but not Kenya. My dad lives here in Sweden. He can call me and not lots of other people. To all of you, just leave me alone and mind your own business!
Kenyan Girl in Stockholm
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Youre right, we are not in Kenya, but Sweden!!! Kenyans always want to be in other people s business.
Just leave the girl alone.
And why is her mother seeking help from other Kenyans and TZdians?? i hate those kind of women and it seems like shes out of control herself.
I would do the same thing, leave and never come back!!! and if people kept calling me, i would curse them out and call polisi.
Kenyan in Europe
Hey the Wakenya and Tanzanians referred to by the young lady should keep off her and really mind their business.
There are so many problems in the families of which are known to themselves, but the main thing is that the DNA will remain the same. Those things comes from generations. And remember where there is smock there is fire underneath. May be the mother had discovered something fishy in her daughter you never know? The World will tell at last.
Note; Correction on my previous comment:
There are so many problems in the families of which are known to themselves but the main thing is that the DNA will remain the same.Those things comes from generations. And remember where there is smoke there is fire underneath. May be the mother had discovered something fishy in her daughter you never know? The World will tell at last.
myb she s not yet a child anymore her mom can tell us.
Gal take care of youself and the situation around you. Your mum means well(even the social sevice people,teachers), Her way of saying she cares may be putting you off but,she wants you to grow as a reasonable person, she wants you to study,she wants you to go through life the right way so that when you will be full adult you shall not need to suffer. Being 15 years is good but this is the peak of you being a child and a time you are becomimg an adult.As an adolescent one can think that the adults or the people around are fools or maybe not modernised. But they know what is good for you because they have gone through that stage.They way you are doing things nowadays, you know what I mean,can make you suffer emotionally and can make your life miserable.You should wait until you are of good age.Right now you should focus on your studies and enjoy your life.You seem to have big expectations,calm down!!!Wish you well!
There must be a very big hidden secrets but perhaps neither the mother or the care-taker &the liitle suffering young kenyan/swedish girl. Please can ksb find out and give the reader a clear picture hence here smells Fitina/hate and wivu and ab ove all (Economic gains & exploitation .For any sensible parent the girl must be poisoned in her growing mind.And to remove such poisoned mind wont never be a simple task.Mzasi ni mzasi ! <<<We are not living in backward kenya where women , children has no rights.
Didnt i read well.Ai the father isin Sweden (or) living in sweden .what is his role as a loving father?can he enlighten the community in this country why is her daughter in the limelight?
What is his role as a parent ?How old is his father ? Is he divorce? Is he a loving father ?A teenage school girl at age 15 needs alot of care and love .This is a very delicate age where she might meet wrong rougue gangs that may destroy her life forever, such as smoking Marijuana, prostitute etc. We need more informtion either from the Parents , care-taker and let them have courage to oppen up to the ksb so that perhaps kenyans can help. its one of our copuntry daughter suffering at that age.
Many people parent based on their own natural personality. But it’s also true that lots of moms feel guilty because their choices don’t line up with what they perceive the mainstream to be. The “Judge-and-Be-Judged” phenomenon is very real.
I don’t believe in any particular style of parenting. The best parenting is what works for you and your family – for some, that might look like lots of activities and parental involvement, for others, that might look unstructured and laid-back. Children and parents are not abstract categories, they are particular individuals and what works for one family might not work for another. We need to stop judging families who parent or schedule or eat or discipline in a way different from ours, and also stop feeling guilty for making choices that we think are best for our own family.
We are not meant, as parents, to be the sole provider of our child’s attachment needs as they grow older. Ideally, we would live in a “village of attachment” where the rules of the culture were designed to help strengthen our bond with our kids and where friends, family, teachers and others would all come together as a supporting cast.
Unfortunately, the rules of the Western society are designed around economics, not the attachment bond, and many parents are overcompensating for this. I agree that this can be problematic, but seen in context, it is understandable. Parents are trying to shield their children emotionally from a world that has become insensitive and overwhelming.
We know in developmental psychology that independence is born of healthy dependence. When a child develops what is referred to as a “secure base” they thrive. When they don’t have their attachment needs met, when they don’t develop this secure attachment with their parents, they grow up insecure and preoccupied with getting their needs met.
If the girl’s father is in Sweden, did he bother to intervene when the girl was kcked out by her mother between 2007-2010? Is he a responsible dad or just another sperm-donor runaway dad who doesn’t care about his child? Why was her mum kicking her out in the past? Did she ever consult a psychiatrist to know what problems her daughter was having? Why does she want her back yet she had thrown her out of the apartment before? There are many questions to be raised from the girl’s message, but clearly those Kenyans and Tanzanians trying to interfere now should stop and mind their own business.
The Kenyan girl mother is both dipressed and in distress(stressed) First she has lost child-care benefits(barn-bidrag.
the barn -bidrag has gone to the family living with her daughter.She is really in pains.She is lonely and in need of a comforting (male) a man a tleast who can comfort her in time of need.
She is also bitter seeing another Kenyan family taking care of her own ruway little doughter in her teen-age in a swedish society.
We cannot also forget the (culture shoke) There are many broken families in Sweden among them the Immigrant population Hence the Right-wing swedish ruling Party and its bouguosy politics Unlike sossarna(social democracy (Party of workers) which used to care both Swedish families and immigrant families. In 70th that little 15 yrs Kenyan girl would have taken care by the social welfare office but the social authorities of today is a total failure to the swedish tax-payers where One can see the break-down of families in so called swedish-welfare State which is a myth. I would encourage the Ksb investigation & learned journalists & bloggers to keep on their good well done job in keeping the Kenyans in sweden &in Nordic countries informed. i hope the father of this lovely youth from his blood and dNA is reading this!
I think the girl is being brain washed and used by the care taker for her own economical gains.
the wakenya and the so called waTanzania are trying to get her out of the fire she has just got herself into – I mean the girl jumped from the pan to the fire. The care taker is missusing and separating this family for her evil gains.
The bad tabiya (habits) and impunity perpetrated by Kenyans in both home and in diaspora has alot to be studied seriously .Does it mean that we the kenyans are Uncililized lot? And what must be done to get us civlized and join th lest of the world civilized communities.?Excuse me and read the following ill-treatment of a govt worker in a foreign Copuntry by none other than Embassy Officials in this modern age>1.Ambassador tortured a Kenyan maid & deported her back to Kenya >Another Purity Muhindi>
A Kenyan ambassador in a Schengen country beat up his cook and put her on a direct flight to Nairobi after she demanded for overtime. The diplomat’s wife ensured the cook boarded a plane to Nairobi. The man does not understand why he should pay a Kenyan overtime. Our mole has also informed us that the man has frustrated Kenyan staff in the mission and his bad management style has spilled over to the embassy creditors. We are told that no company wants to offer the embassy
A Thieving Minister looses grabbed land at Coast Province>Mwivi Ongeri The Kibaki Minister of Education.