Wife-Beating: Madona Calls For “An End To Stupidity”
I wish to differ on the on-going wife beating debate among Kenyans in Stockholm. In many cultures in Kenya, beating women is acceptable because it is the only way through which a man can discipline a woman who misbehaves. Kenyan men who have been beating their women deserve support because they are acting out of instinct. These are loyal cultural activists who are revolting against the white culture based on having two heads in a family. It never works.
There is an adage in Kenya that “never get in between” a fighting couple because after the fight, they will go and do it in bed and then begin to blame you for their problems. You will become enemy number one. The practice of men beating their women is an accepted activity in many Kenyan cultures and to try and demonize men who have been giving their women a bashing is unfair because these men are simply being loyal to culture.
There are two kinds of beatings. The “slapping” which is harmless and the “heavy battering” which leads to injury and, sometimes, death. It is the heavy battering that should be condemned, not the occasional slapping meant to “panel-beat the woman in line”. This kind of slap is the kind you give a naughty kid on the buttocks to keep the kid in line. It is always harmless unless carried too far. Any woman who tries to hit back after being slapped will surely be battered so never try. Just relax but make sure you evaluate whether you will be facing slaps or real beatings.
Those who are talking about wife beating are mixing the two activities and elevating “slapping” into “battering” for effect. How comes that after the blogger “battered” his ex or after the Chairman “battered” his wife, the two never had any serious injuries? This should be evidence that they were just slapped, not beaten. A man who gives the woman the real beating and hurts her should be condemned. What I am saying is that African culture allows for a certain level of “discipline” in the home which has to be done by the man.
Even governments employ a level of violence against their own people for purposes of “discipline” otherwise there would be chaos in the country and total disorder. In Kenya, the police even shoot citizens to death on behalf of the government or tear-gas stupid citizens demonstrating against the government in the streets. The Army and the police are special units for instigating violence during trouble to regain some order with the President being the head of the house so what are we saying?
I have myself been slapped several times by my husband for some stupid mistakes I did but I never took these slaps as beatings. A woman who discusses secret family matters with enemies of her husband deserves a slap, not a beating. Without slapping a woman once in a while, men become incomplete and this is something our women have not understood because they have been brainwashed by Western cultures that has banned the two types of beating and that has elevated slapping a woman into a terrible crime.
When You Are Slapped, Take It Easy
There is no need of scaring married men with the monster of “wife beating” because this will lead to emasculation of men who will begin to panic within the home and fear the woman for no reason. What should be emphasized is that instead of beating the woman, give her a slap and nothing else.
The act of slapping relieves the man of temper and gets the load off his chest. A slap is harmless and might even increase love in the home, contrary to opinion that any slight “touching of the woman” amounts to a beating.
When I know am wrong, I sometimes invite my husband to slap me on the buttocks to avoid a long arguement that could mess up his mood in the evening and it works like magic. The poor guy normally feels relieved and it happens very quickly. I then bring him some warm tea and that night, I get my thing. This is how I have perfected using the “slapping instinct” of these animals called males.
Scaring men with police will simply give women “big heads” and scare bachelors from getting married, a situation that may lead to hundreds and thousands of stranded young women with no one to marry them. In the end, our population will go down because of these “white scare tactics” that is getting into the heads of members of our society as quickly as the spread of Ukimwi.
Some people have been wondering why some women fail to report “cases of abuse” by men. These women are the cleaver ones because they understand the difference between being slapped and being beaten. You should know the level of violence a man you have lived with is capable of and report to police or walk out of a relationship when you are convinced that the man is not interested in slapping but beating you to hurt you or even kill you.
A friend of mine called me last night and told me that her husband slapped her after she stretched the food budget and bought a pair of nice shoes she admired which was going cheaply. She understood that she did something stupid and paying with a slap was cheap because she has her shoes. After the slap, she told me that the poor dude will now have to stretch his credit card because the kids have to eat. This is the way to go, not rushing to police.
How comes that the Chairman has been accused of having been a womanizer yet for more than ten years, no woman has ever accused him of spouse-beating? Those who know the Chairman knows that he is not a violent guy and I am convinced that the so called beating was actually a slap otherwise the woman’s face should have been deformed, lost a tooth or suffered a broken bone if she got a real beating. I know the blogger to be a very cool guy who can never even hurt a fly. When he slapped his ex following a provocation, it was immediately elevated into a “battering”, why?
My appeal to women is this: Let us not follow wazungu blindly. Instead, let us use our senses to differentiate between a “violent husband” and a “slapping husband” because as a matter of instinct, and in as much as we may want to be in denial, men are animals who require to exercise their so called superiority in one way or another and slapping is one of them.
If you have been watching “Discovery” or “Animal Planet”, even male animals in the jungle have a tendency of trying to dominate their spouses while protecting their teritory. We are animals with intelligence. Why can’t we understand nature by observing wild animals? If a man tells you to go and change winter tyres on your own, it means you have been competing with him in the house.
Blind Following of White Culture
When you are slapped, take it easy. What is a slap compared to taking your husband to police then KSB picking up the story and your relationship being the talk of town?
You should tell when the slap begins to get far and report or get out of the relationship. I know this view may not be popular but there is freedom of expression. The attempt to emasculate our men by denying them the opportunity to slap their women because of fear of police will lead to them malfunctioning as the head of the family.
What will you be doing with a husband who is “as scared as a rat” in the house when he ought to be exercising his masculinity and feeding you powerfully with that sweet beef? A functioning family needs constant arguments in the house and sometimes your mouth slips and you say something stupid in the cause of argument and you get slapped. Calling police or rushing to KSB in such situations is what I call stupidity.
I always tell my husband that he can slap me but the day he beats me, I will report to police and quit the relationship and he has never beaten me. Kenyans should wake up and stop silly comments fed by consuming lots of white culture which encourages oral and anal sex. Let the men be men and women be women then the two can sort themselves out. If they can’t, they should split. It’s that simple. My fellow Kenyans, stop being silly here in Sweden.