I had taken leave on Kenya-Stockholm human interest stories because of the urgency of dealing with the crisis in Kenya. However, my fingers are itching because maneno moto moto yanapita.
I was going through blogs managed by Kenyans in Stockholm when I came across something very interesting. In one blog, a woman who works at the Kenyan Embassy was attacked for stealing husbands of other men while posing as a Christian. The attack on her was very brutal and I really felt sorry for the poor lady. The blogger baptized her “Jezabel” and accused her of taking advantage of her role in the Church as a Counselor of couples whose relationships have hit the rocks to hijack men in the process of providing solutions at times of crisis.
Strangely, the name of Mr. Githuku wa Muirani (not Muirani wa Githuku as reported by the blogger) features as the culprit who helped fix a job for the woman at the Kenyan Embassy. Muirani is said to have travelled all the way to Kenya to meet big shots including Beth Mugo to help the woman acquire employment at the Kenyan Embassy. KSB was the first to feast on the “grabbed hubby story” and the blogger acknowledges this fact by referring to some journalist who raised it but who was allegedly “silenced by critics”. Another name which features in the story is that of Pastor Samson who is introduced as being close to the woman. The woman is described as “beautiful” with further graphics which leave no doubt as to the identity of the woman in question. If you need further direction, the location is Bagarmossen church.
What is interesting in the Kenya-Stockholm Blog round up is that after the Jezabel story hit the Net, another blogger surfaced to attack Kenyans who are attacking others for no reason. The blogger is a well known pro-Kibaki, anti-Raila activist who once reported that he was closing down his blog before changing his mind to say that the blog will be maintained after all. The blogger periodically provides platform for Muirani to spill his anti-ODM venom (although in a modest way) while he believes that KSB is a “War Blog”. It is believed that it is Muiranu who prevailed upon the blogger to maintain the blog because Muirani is believed to have a lot of influence on the blogger.
Although the blogger did not name names in his attack, it was clear that he was addressing the anti-Jezabel forces in Stockholm especially the blogger who had attacked Jezabel. The anger was so enormous that the blogger admitted that he had no better way of expressing it. To widen his circulation, he sent the story to a Kompis Blog (friendly) where his attack was also published. The thinly veiled attack on the Jezabel story was not accidental and this is where the matter becomes even more complicated. The story is so sensitive that you will just have to permit me not to mention names.
This is because the attacker, who went berserk at his blog, is suspected to be one of the men allegedly stolen by Jezabel oki doki…. The only justification as to why he was shouting at the top of his voice and on the roof tops of his blog is that he was trying to defend Jezabel without mentioning names or making direct references. Surely, a good man defends his woman when she is under attack and this was very encouraging.
SECRECY BEHIND RELATIONSHIP RESPONSIBLE FOR HOT GOSSIP IN STOCKHOLM
Kenyans will agree that the blogs, especially KSB (the war monger?), have been very quiet with every blogger trying to hit on the situation in Kenya. The Kenyan Embassy has been experiencing a period of tranquility because of shifted attention and I understand that the Ambassador has been on her knees praying that the crisis in Kenya continues so that she could continue breathing “fresh air” at the Mission. In short, there was no basis for the outburst that was witnessed by the blogger in question before the Jezabel story.
The author of the Jezabel story touched a raw nerve because the story is only whispered in Stockholm. The big issue is that the woman who fell victim to the “Husband snatch” has refused to keep her mouth shut because she feels betrayed by a woman she trusted.
As the blog which broke the story, we can report that the whole process played itself under difficult circumstances because “The beauty” (the name Jezabel is too harsh jameni), was just emerging from a serious bereavement following the sudden and tragic death of her hubby while the guy (young, energetic, ambitious and handsome) was in serious crisis with his rib. They had tried to sort out the crisis but it wasn’t working. Surely, what is wrong if the Embassy beauty saw her chances and grabbed the guy in the middle of a serious crisis that faced the three personalities in the situation?
Let us call a spade a spade. When you lose your husband after a tragic accident, you have a right to re-engage a new dume because (as Chaka Chaka says in her song) “every woman needs a man… to touch her all night long”. If your relationship has hit the rocks, you have a right to look for new options. Why are those who are attacking the Beauty not attacking the woman whose hubby was snatched because she has also found a new muscle to service her. Did she hook up with a virgin, a single dude or snatch the guy from some dysfunctional babe who had made his life difficult?
The problem with the Embassy Beauty and the blogger is that they have been in hiding and behaving as if the whole gossip in Stockholm is just hot air. They don’t want to admit that they are together even though Stockholm’s leading News channels (Norsborg Radio, Channel Nzoro, Channel Muirash, Channel Mwaos, Capital Alby FM, Radio Bagarmossen, Lady FM Nduta, Nancy Breaking News, KSB Underground, Jamii et al) know that they are articulating. It is only Channel Muraya that is saying nothing and this is expected because “Muraya and Company” is controlled by Jesus Karast and only prayers are allowed at the channel. KSB is on overdrive I tell ya!
The secrecy behind the relationship is what makes the connection interesting to the Kenyan public in Stockholm. The fact that the woman works at the Kenyan Embassy is probably the biggest factor why the story’s relevance has refused to go away. Isitoshe, the fact that the blogger is seen as the bull behind the heifer adds juice to the whole love saga.
The reason why the woman’s Christian background is being exploited by critics to attack her for having snatched another woman’s husband is because as per Christian standards, she is expected to admit and come out in public that following the death of her husband, she was free to link up with another man. What this “underground couple” should do is that they should own up and stop living under illusions. By living in denial, they are fuelling negative rumors and hot gossip. Falling in love is not a sin.
ANOTHER WOMAN “WHO WAS GRABBED” IS BACK AND DISTRIBUTING THE GOODS
With the story circulating in the Net, the Beauty is unduly being exposed to a lot of stress because the impression being created by the blog stories is that what she did was wrong. This kind of impression is misplaced because the beauty is not responsible for the crisis between her catch and the woman who lost. She simply found them in the middle of crisis.
Humans have their weaknesses regardless of whether you are President Clinton (remember Lawinsky) or Rev Jesse Jacksson who impregnated a girl and kept the relationship secret even after he continued to support the child. The Embassy beauty should come to terms with the woman she out-maneuvered and make peace because Love is blind. It doesn’t know whether you are a Christian, a blogger or a Church Canceller on marriages in crisis.
Many Kenyan couples have split up but we don’t witness the kind of attention similar to the Embassy Beauty link up. I know of a married Kenyan who temporarily* snatched one of the most beautiful women in Stockholm from her husband but it was no big deal. The two men talked it over and now, they meet to drink freely. This is civilization.
There was tension when the issue exploded at a house Party but the man whose wife was allegedly snatched is mature and he managed to play down the crisis (I don’t know how). Some Kenyans believe that the guy has “many lives” because he has survived too many crisis – romantic, political, social and what have you!
Now, the woman is back and the guy continues to have his share “of the cake” so what is the big deal with the Embassy beauty? The “grabbed woman” was together with her “better half” at both the Muraya wedding and the Mwaura wife reception Party so? The woman served a heap of food for his man at the Mwaura Party and one Mzee (Mzee P) congratulated her for her skills in understanding that the man needs real energy eh!
That was after she was seen arriving at a child’s birthday Party in Hagsätra with the man who allegedly grabbed her and after she appeared at the Beatrice wedding Reception last year with the same man so? The man who grabbed her is himself a “Consultant” when it comes to dealing with women. This is beside the point but imagine this: You marry, kick off your wife after some time, get another wife and in the middle of the honey moon, you grab someone’s wife and appear in a public place with her but still maintain your second wife!! Kenyans in Stockholm should actually clap for this guy for how does he pull that kinda a string?
Back to the Embassy beauty. Wakenya in Stockholm should grow up and abandon pettiness. This woman simply did the right thing. If she was purely responsible for the split up between her catch and the other woman, it could have been a different story. Yes, the couple trusted her and was going for counseling on a routine basis but things changed. Why are critics not blaming the man for being responsible for the total break up?
KENYANS SHOULD LEARN LESSONS FROM THE “EMBASSY BEAUTY HUSBAND GRAB”
Why blame the Embassy woman and capitalize on her Christian profile to project her as an evil woman? I know the woman and I don’t think that she is evil. I also know the man and I don’t think that he is crazy. I don’t know who was the first to fall “during counseling” but the truth is that one of them (probably the man) fell na wakapendana!!
Nelson Mandela had problems with his wife Winnie but married Graca Machel, former wife of the late Samora Machel of Mozambique. Can it be correct to say that Graca grabbed Mandela and should Winnie complain?
I am not holding brief for the Embassy beauty. I am only concerned with the violation of the woman’s right to freedom of choice after the tragic loss of her husband. She never forced the man into anything. What she did is that she displayed a different kinda charm which must have melted the guy’s heart for how on earth did a counseling session turn into “love in the air” complete with overnight sessions that signalled to the other woman yakwamba ni kubaya?
The guy reportedly began spending long evenings at the woman’s Crib as he went for “follow ups” and “analysis” of discussions about the crisis. It was during this period that nobody knows what actually happened. I suspect that they relocated to the bedroom where the whole magic must have been played thereby changing the situation “for ever”.
Instead of attacking the woman, lessons should be learnt out of the situation. If you are a woman, never leave your hubby alone being counseled by another woman (a beautiful one at that) in the middle of a romantic crisis regardless of how much you trust the Counselor. Men should learn the lesson that they are perpetually weak at the hands of women. You get to her for advice in times of a romantic crisis with your own wife and she ends up in your arms? We will never know how it came to this.
What is known is that one day, KSB got a tip that the woman was dating the blogger and that the other woman was not happy. We believe that this couple should now be left alone to chart their own future. The man should also stop hinting at the story at his blog because then, KSB will pick it up and the story will never come to an end. The couple should declare their connection as this will go a long way in normalizing a situation which is fuelling lots of gossip in our small Kenya Stockholm. It has nothing to do with the Beauty’s Christianity. It has more to do with her charms and her holy shrine which appears to have trapped the man and this is perfectly normal. If you ask me, Wacha waseme, usiku watalala – “let them say, at night they will go to sleep”.
Okoth Osewe
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