If you think that I am going to start by explaining what a rat is, you are in for a surprise because I am not going to do that. I am assuming that you know what a rat is. If you think that a rat is a grain of wheat or a pint of Tusker baridi, you are free to do that. Be my guest.
You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to kill a whole army of mice. All what you need is to have a trap and a small amount of grains of maize. Just put the grain at a strategic place in the trap and the trap will close in a split second when the rat tries to enter to eat the grain. The rat will cry and cry in pain as it tries to free itself from the trap. Finally, it will be killed. When all this is happening, the rat’s children and all relatives are all there witnessing the painful killing of one of their own. You would expect them to learn something from that but do they? The next day the same trap which killed their relative is still there. Another rat will try to eat the grain not realizing that the trap is hanging over his neck ready to kill him. No sooner will he try to eat the grain than the trap will close and kill him instantly. The next day will be the same, another rat will be killed. Sooner or later the whole clan is wiped out. If only there is only one wise rat to tell them that the trap is a killing machine and they should avoid it by all means, they would all survive.
Your father’s violence and your behaviour
We are humans who have been equipped with knowledge and we sometimes behave like rats. We can all see the danger that we put ourselves into and we still walk into the danger zone with no care in the world. Sample this; Since you were born, you have always seen your father being violent and abusive to your mum. Rumors have it that even your grandparents were just like that and so violence runs in the family. People associate your family with violence because even your great-great grandfathers were violent. You got married ages ago and your wife and children do not know any peace. You create so much tension in your house that your wife and children are happy when you are away. Instead of looking at your family history and break the cycle of violence, you are so much into it. You cannot learn from the pain that you went through as a kid. Why can’t you say that enough is enough and there will never be any violence from your generation and beyond? Why can’t you try to create a little Heaven in your house where all of us can learn? It is a shame to be a product of broken marriage and you also become the cause of your marriage breakup. You are killing a generation because you have created a lot of fear in your children and this fear will never make them realize their full potential. The world has so much to offer but if your children are even afraid of even their own shadows, they will not go very far in life. It will take a miracle for them to have a new mindset and tap the abundance of the universe. My brother, God be with you.
Your abusive mother
You are a woman and you know very well that your grandmother and your mother are known for disrespecting their husbands. You saw how your mum was mistreating your dad and how your family became dysfunctional because of your mums bad attitude. The result of which is that none of her children have healthy meaningful relationships with partners of the opposite sex. You are now living in twenty first century and you still have the same attitude your mum had. A misplaced sense of grandeur in yourself has massaged your ego so much over the years that you have no clue as to how a man who isn’t a relative should be treated. You have no respect for men and you will always repel self-respecting gentlemen who would seek your affection. You cannot distinguish between a housefly and a man. Your standard defense is that it is always the man’s fault that you do not get along and expect him to grovel and beg, subjugating himself to you, always shifting goal posts whenever he protests at your behavior. Think long and hard before bringing children into this world with such an attitude. Men will always flee from such a women, either physically or mentally and you will have fatherless kids. They will unfortunately grow up to be dysfunctional individuals despite your efforts to give them the best in life. God be with you my sister! You are destroying yourself and a happy future by behaving like a rat. Wake up and change your attitude before the ground shifts beneath your feet and find yourself growing old, lonely and still single without a life partner.
Stop your bad habits and talk to your children
If you have a black boy child in school, it is time to open your eyes wide and follow the progress of your kid. Our boys are known for knife crimes and all manner of hooliganism. We are to blame because we are not there as their role models. We don’t take time to talk to them and so whatever they do is what they think is best for them. Switch off that Television for a moment and talk to your kids. There is so much going on in our children’s lives that if we neglect them, we are the ones to blame. Don’t tell your kids not to smoke when they are seeing you smoking. Stop telling them that alcohol is bad when you yourself is drinking cans and cans of Budweiser or Stella Artois, Mariastad, Pripps etc on a Saturday morning. By the way, your grandfather died of alcohol related disease and so was your father. Are you sure that you never learned anything? What of that brother of yours who died of lung cancer because of smoking all his life? It is about time you said enough is enough because those unnecessary deaths in the family should have taught you a lesson. Talk to your children about the dangers of smoking and heavy drinking. Tell them stories, false or true, about the effects of smoking and drinking. You have a brain of a human being not that of a rat so don’t be stupid in your life.
Didn’t your brother die of Aids?
Last year but one, we came to the funeral of your brother who died of aids and even last year, there was death in your family and aids was the cause. You have multiple sex partners and there is a very high probability that some are H.I.V. positive. When having sex with them, do you use protection? Or is it just get on your marks, get set and go! God be with you. Just know that the moment that sex partner opens her legs for you, you are signing a death warrant. Soon we will come to your funeral service to view your dead body for the final time in this world. For a moment visualize your wife, children, family and friends all wearing black with their eyes full of tears. It was God’s intention that you live for many years with your family but because your appetite for sex was explosive, it never came to pass. Can you see your children living without their mom or dad, moving from one foster parent to the other because of your sex escapades? Are you so stupid and blind that you cannot see the danger around you, entering into every thigh that splits open? Do you have the tiny brain of a rat or are you a human being with intelligence? Shame on you if you insist of that rat brain of yours.
Why are all your relationships not working?
Look at the history of relationships that you always find yourself into. My honest question to you is: do you add value to your relationships and life? Are you contributing to nurturing toxic relationships? How come all your partners always flee from you? What is missing in your character? Do you love having your ego massaged? As a kid you were perhaps always criticized or never corrected and this made you grow with very low self-esteem. In actual fact, you have no confidence in yourself. What are you doing about this lack of confidence? Are you a member of any library? Do you visit any bookshop in your area and read books about reforming your character? Are you taught anything about character building in the church that you attend or are you just going through the motions, singing, making signs of the cross and rebuking the devil? Back to relationships, the big question is; in the group that you call friends, are you considered the smartest, cutest, most handsome, most beautiful or most fashionable? Are these friends always singing your praises about how clever you are or how fantastic you look? If the answer is yes, then you are in the wrong group. You need to be with people who can challenge you, not people who are bootlickers. Do not associate with people that pull you down either, but our inbuilt defenses see us through since nobody in their right mind would surround themselves with such friends. But a conscious effort to pull away is required and necessary when dealing with ego massaging, bootlicking friends. When in the wrong group, you will just be revolving in a circle by not making any progress in life. You are not a rat so choose your friends wisely.
Abandon your relatives if need be
There are some relatives who are also toxic. These are the people to spend the most minimum time with. For years and years your relatives have been leaving a trail of destruction any time they come in your life. Why don’t you just leave them alone? Don’t visit them and don’t even call them. When you meet, talk about the weather and about the amount of snow on top of Mount Kilimanjaro. Ask God to provide you with good friends whose integrity is beyond reproach. God is faithful and he will do exactly that.
It is Martin Luther King Jnr who said that if a country or civilization continues to produce soft-minded men, then they are purchasing death in installments. If you find yourself saying yes, yes, yes to each and every nobody, then you are in danger. This world has no place for soft people. We are like animals in the wilderness. When some animals are very busy eating grass, there are others like lions that are busy scheming to kill the others. It is time to put our ears on the ground and feel the vibrations and look up when there is too much heat. Albert Einstein once said that if he was given eight hours to cut a tree, he would spend four hours sharpening the axe. Why am I saying this?
Get some knowledge by reading
We are in the intellectual age now. Have you ever heard of the Dead Sea scrolls? Ever heard of what was in the University of Alexandria in 48 B.C.? Do you know what prophet Isaiah said in the scrolls that were discovered 1700 years later? If you have never heard of all this, then you are missing the lost language of God. All what I am saying is that we can use our mind to achieve anything. For years we were born in poverty and this is the time to use our God given mind to turn our lives around. As you go to your day job, remember what the late Jim Ron said, that profits are better than wages. Do you know why we have poor and rich people? This is simply because of the different mindsets, just the difference in the way both parties think. Do you have a mindset of a champion or you only have poverty mentality.
Are you a human being or a rat? Think about it carefully and decide whom you really think you are and how you can change your life for the better using the huge potential that you have but which may be going to waste because of your rat mentality. Lastly, you are not a rat so stop having the mindset of a rat.
Ojwang Hatari
About the Author
Yes. Quotes and Einstein. Einstain had a lot of them and he had lots of humor.
But? “Give me six hours to chop a tree and……
Wasn´t that Abraham Lincoln quoting that? About the importens of educating I think?
Nice and true
“A misplaced sense of grandeur in yourself has massaged your ego so much over the years that you have no clue as to how a man who isn’t a relative should be treated. You have no respect for men and you will always repel self-respecting gentlemen who would seek your affection”
Very true Ojwang, women like this are plenty in stockholm. They usually have a string of failed relationships behind them and are often single parents to some spoilt brat. In public they are really sweet social creatures, you even envy the man with her. But let me tell you, they man you see being caressed and pampered by such a woman in public is suffering. He is treated like an idiot, sneering and insulting him, and she uses him like a duster. Sooner or later the man will run, and the ice queen will always have an explanation for the breakup where the man is to blame. This is the same situation that faces battered women, except that men dont speak about such things.
Thank you brother this a real lesson to us, God bless you.
Theres alot of abuse that exist within kenyan people. I mean the abuse with words. Many use words to humliate others and say they were joking or that they are talking the truth. Dont think having a sharp tongue and being quick with a reply is a sign of intelligence but is actually a sign of a frastrated and a very uncoth person. You met such people dressed well and look happy and succesful at parties, but if you say or do something that they think is wrong, you will hear big big words then are even dirty. If you investigate you find they are in fact failed in their lives, and have always been pushed by their relatives to jobs that they think they have earned. They always talk about the past when they were in some position or had monie, and now they are useless people leaving in the past glory. Sorry to write this but this kind of person is really destroying Kenya society and makes us look bad. Thank you Hatari for your good article.
Oh yes …what a lesson! The article by Hatari is just too good.Who will advise him to move it abit further to other publishers.It will touch many and they will reason it out.This is one of the best as I see it. Keep it up!
Atari ojwang, my concern who made you the Daktari? Why are you spending your useless low life analysning personalities, why dont you use this time you spent on writing this long article to improve your low crap life ensuit with your extended family alike. People like you are so disgusting, you think you are god. Idiot!! Wacha ku payuka ginga hii
KSB: Please, try to use one handle. You are posting as “Mimmi, “Jinga”, “Ogalos” and “Bullshit” using the same email of obish2@… Secondly, I did not write this article as you suggest in your “Bullshit” querry. By the way, I thought it was a good article and that is why it was published. Remember, I am providing a platform for expression and so try to be civil. This request applies to all commentators.
Nasty!!
Get a life you or get real! Or maybe this is all you, don’t you think?
Osewe, whom are u insulting now? Are u this miserable u resort to attacking the public? If these are your words. My question did you pick the log from your eyes first?
KSB: Please, try to use one handle. You are posting as “Mimmi, “Jinga”, “Ogalos” and “Bullshit” using the same email of obish2@… Secondly, I did not write this article as you suggest in your “Bullshit” querry. I post as “Okoth Osewe” and my handle here is “Makozewe”. By the way, I thought it was a good article and that is why it was published. Remember, I am providing a platform for expression and so try to be civil. This request applies to all commentators.
Mimmi, aka Ogalos and Jinga, must have woken up on the wrong side of the bed to hurl unnecessary insults at an invisible writer. Amazing how the pseudonym “Atari” can ruffle one to aim unwarranted shelling at Osewe who has provided a platform for expression at KSB. Atari’s article encompasses many aspects of life and is not aimed at one person. I enjoyed reading it just like two of my friends.
This aticle is so deminishing, if someone can sit down and stoop this low, how are some diasporans veiwing us Knya stockholmers as a society. Such kind of articles should be discouraged.
And Osewe, i said if they are your words? I used an if. One handle or many does it really matter, a handle is a handle. Personally i think this is very disturbing and that an individual can result to this cheapness insulting people using HIV etc etc, please lets all grow up collectively and discourage this kind of absurdness, freedom of expression or not. Im sorry but i aint buying the fun in this. So now you resort to revealing peoples email addresses? This blog is so amazing!
KSB: KSB: There are those who have said that the article is good while others like you do not think so. This is how democracy works and as human beings, we cannot agree on everything. Using many handles is a sign that someone wants to create the impression that many people are commenting on the same story at the same time when this is not the case. This is not allowed. This article draws from general human experience and it is not specific. It could depict the lives of a million people. In fact, I did learn something from it and if you don’t find it useful, you have a right to that opinion and KSB has a right to publish it.
maybe i mist smthing?Mimmi waht is so bad about the article?we all look at ´thins from all angles and am seeing it as an everyday informaton of ways of our lives anywhere.i see no individual coz u say Osewe is now attacking personalities.well from his explanation he posted it just like many others from various readers.
Mimmi, i dont really c what u r complaining about in this article.if u hve nothing to do, take a wok.
mimmi tuliza boli.Osewe is just somebody who posted the article. He has explained it. Explain what is offensive in the writing. I read it as an interesting piece covering matters everywhere.