Who was Sister Nyambu? continued…
The picture that many Kenyans have of Nyambu changes abruptly if (and only IF) one chooses to consider the words of Ruguru, an ex friend, who claimed at KSB that she knew Nyambu very well (see comment #12 on this post). According to Ruguru, Nyambu never had a “normal childhood” because she was brought up by a brutal mother who beat her “…and treated her like an animal”.
Claiming background knowledge, giving substantial data about Nyambu’s family and assuming the authority of an ex-friend, Ruguru claimed that Nyambu’s mother never loved her while her step father was allegedly even “worse” after he was allowed by the mother to mistreat Nyambu. “…her mother together with her man (…stepdad) are the ones who created this monster by taking childhood away from (her)”, Ruguru wrote.
To demonstrate her knowledge of the family (probably to increase the credibility of his/her information), Ruguru discloses that after the birth of Nyambu, her mother split up and later gave birth to two more children whose dad automatically became Nyambu’s step father. The commentator also gives an inkling about the bad relationship between Nyambu and her mother soon after her mother’s second marriage.
“Her mother valued her new man more that her own dotter, she married him when she already had Nyambu and then she got 2 more kids with him, so (Nyambu) was always the bad one…”, wrote Ruguru.
If this statement can be considered at face value, some questions could be posed: could Nyambu have been reminding her mother of her ex-husband in a negative way? Did Nyambu’s father mistreat her mom, prompting her to quit the relationship when Nyambu was young? Did Nyambu’s mistreatment at the hands of his step father and with the alleged knowledge of her mother a kind of “revenge” to what Nyambu’s father may have done to her mother possibly leading to a split? Although the answers to these questions could be difficult to come by, they could probably give a clue as to why Nyambu was allegedly being mistreated by her mom, almost to the extent of being unwanted.
Naturally, no one can vouch for the veracity of a KSB comment however, the contribution of this commentator was specifically curious because he/she appeared to have been providing certain credible answers to critical questions while at the same time untangling key contradictions that had suddenly popped up in the situation.
The top-most question that quickly found its way in the mouths of many observers was how Nyambu, a seemingly well-behaved, normal and outgoing Kenya-Stockholm single mother of two, could have turned into a murderer without anybody picking up vital signals to the effect that the difficult life in Kenya-Stockholm may have driven her bonkers. If she could kill her children, then who is next in Kenya-Stockholm?
According to Ruguru, Nyambu ought not to shoulder all the blame for murdering her sons because she had no one to protect her or give her love during childhood. In the commentator’s unstated view, Nyambu may be a victim of an excruciating and traumatic past that may have been responsible for her split personality molded out of unresolved and conflicting childhood experiences.
Was Nyambu loving and kind or hateful and cruel?
According to Ruguru’s thesis, Nyambu had known psychological problems she picked up during her formative years, problems that were principally exacerbated by her ill treatment at the hands of her step father who apparently acted with the full knowledge of her mother.
“(Nyambu’s) psychological problems comes from her own home…. her own mother is the one to blame here…..”, wrote Ruguru.
Nyambu’s mother told The Star newspaper in Kenya that her daughter was a “quiet, loving and kind child” an image that was dismantled by Ruguru who viewed the construction of such a tolerable persona as ultimate evidence that Nyambu’s mother may have been at sea vis a vis her daughter’s idiosyncratic inclinations at the time of the double murder .
“(Nyambu) is exactly the other way round, her own mother didn’t even know her”, wrote Ruguru.
It could be that in painting her daughter favourably, Nyambu’s mother may have been playing to the gallery. Any sane mother speaking to the Media about such a tragic event and in which a daughter in police custody could have played a central role is unlikely to seize the opportunity to dress down the daughter or embark on an impromptu mission to wash dirty laundry in public regardless of personal differences.
Within Kenya-Stockholm, it is known that a few years ago, it is Nyambu’s mother who brought the daughter’s eldest son to Stockholm in a historic family re-union that was applauded by friends as a step in the right direction. The question that pops up though and which has never been answered is why Nyambu literally chased her mom back to Kenya, an event that not only left Kenya-Stockholm observers perplexed but also totally flabbergasted. Was Nyambu the angel Kenya-Stockholmers knew or was she the community’s Princess of darkness who remained under cover using infectious smiles and an active social life?
The picture of Nyambu painted by Ruguru and which is diametrically opposed to the better images so far rendered by friends is that: the single mother was not quiet but vocal; not loving but hateful; not kind but mean and cruel. In fact, Ruguru’s basic conjecture is that Nyambu’s real-life character is that of a monstrous mother who could in fact have killed her own children.
“If those boys lived with Nyambu God forbid i dont know how what they would become”, Ruguru wrote authoritatively.
Indeed, if Nyambu’s traumatic upbringing created a ”monster”, the question that Ruguru is posing indirectly is the kind of creatures this “monstrous mother” could have herself created if she did not kill the children!
Ruguru’s presupposition is that epithets suggesting that Nyambu was “sweet, kind and loving” can only be realistic if they emanate from gullible and care-free acquaintances whose personal knowledge of Nyambu’s demeanor were deeply rooted in Nyambu’s theatrics during social interactions especially at “closed circuit” home parties where, according to Naliaka, another KSB commentator, “Kids are subjected to high decibel music as mothers wriggle their bottoms on living room floors”.
Did Nyambu lead a double life that effectively helped her camouflage her evil and murderous nature or is this a case of a psychological disease that went unnoticed and whose development dates back to her childhood? To be continued…
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KSB: This is a warning I gave last week when debate about KSB commentators was raging: “This is to remind commentators here that while you are free to comment, try not to break the law by making accusations you cannot verify. If a wronged person decides to take legal action, you may be identified so no one is completely anonymous. A handle enables you to comment on issues but it is not a certificate to break the law so be warned and use this facility responsibly. I am taking this early opportunity to send this signal because of the direction this thread is taking. Thank you”.
I am not very far from your position. However, let us not fear the law simply because it exists. Let us respect and follow it and we will be free.
Dan, Nyambu was already judged at the blog named Politisktinkorrekt (PI). Osewe’s pieces are quite normal without any legal implications even by the stated law of personal data infringement.
KSB: Thanks Winasi. I am writing this storo with a lot of concern because after Kavinga, we had a new murder of a Kenyan mother by her husband who later killed himself in prison. Now we have Nyambu who has killed her kids. If someone out there thinks that the law has been broken with this entry, he/she ought to point this out by copy pasting sections of the story that violates the law (and stating how the law has been violated/which sections) so that I can look at them. I may have missed something but I will welcome any help if the law is being broken so that I can fix the problem. We are all human.
Thanks Osewe. I am starting to tie some strings together.
We will never run away from the fact that this woman killed her children. we need to know why she may have done it regardless of where the information is coming from. people are intelligent so they will read and make their own conclusions. KSB is giving us the direction of the smoke and it does not need to say exactly where the fire is burning. For now, I do think that this woman had some childhood problems and may be she could have been helped.
This is really the nyumbani version which I can relate to. I could not elewa how someone could just do that. there is some sense here i think.
I don’t get it, so she came from a tight disciplinary enviroment, so do soo many of us, i mean, who did’nt get hit by his / her parents? Being kicked instead of kisses was our day to day life back then, the number of caines we got in school just because you wispered at preps and this in the hands of another adult who is’nt your relative. If the mother was such a monster im afraid she too could have killed Nyambu but she did’nt, at least she loved her enough not to take her life.
What i know, if you feel you had a very bad childhood i guess its in you as an individual to try and correct the pattern, try your level best not to be like this parent you so much low, get help if neccesary inorder to over come it. Psycologically challenged yes! she must have been to do such a thing but i honestly think this hard life we have here in Europe in the name of better life contribute big time to her commiting muder.
Life here can really be cruel especially to those who are determined to get the mapepe through thick or thin but run in to road block after the other. The psycological tortue we go through before obtaining our permits is in each case different but somehow still the same or even worse, everybody has a story to tell. Nyambu must have really had it rough back in the past and even the present to make her go to those lengths.
Dan #1: Nyambu has already confessed killing her children and mentioning that is not against the law. However, since you have cited a section of the Swedish law on personal data, can you pinpoint where Osewe has contravened it?
Kweli Mama matatu wagon ni hatari hubby ya mwenyewe hata watoto hawajsikwa >kweli ma single mommies wa Stocko wana taabu ya boli.