Who is Smarter in this Paper, Money & Love for Fun Business?
Love, that sweet feeling, has become a matter of “who is smarter” in today’s dot-com era, a situation that has raised the question as to: What is wealth? As evidenced by hot-spot stories and comments at KSB, wealth has become associated with “Papers” Ulayani. That is, regardless of your age, you are hot, fresh and “date-able” if you have them papers. If your lover accompanies you back home and you venture into the streets of Nairobi, many Nairobians will be tempted to think that you are in for the money. I thought so too. Little do they know that the old “hottie” you are tightly holding may be your stamp to the “Green land” or paradise especially in Europe.
Who is fooling who in this scenario could be a very complicated question. According to how the reasoning goes, the aging woman or man will have enjoyed the fresh goodies by the time the stamp is done. That is to say, she/he will be, psychologically, two years or so younger. Isn’t that worth the special stamp?
In that situation, there is no user because it becomes a “do me, I do you” business deal. The case of the guy whose papers developed wings and “flew” is both interesting and unique. It is more of a hide and seek love game. The poor inexperienced guy didn’t understand that the oldie was a doer too. In their case, it was a question of who could touch the finishing line first and the young dude was clearly outdone.
But, playing with the mind of a young lover for the sake of getting them “papers” is inhuman and selfish. The freedom the “paper” offers is incomparable to the scars the betrayal leaves behind, the lost trust, the feeling of disgrace and distaste. Some of these misdeeds do stalk our lives and dismantle it later.
In Kenya, the “paper love” phenomena is diverse .To many people, especially the young and energetic youth, wealth is money. Nairobian boyz have become nuts with money, big cars, partying and elderly but “fat pocketed” women. This trend has become so notorious that you will find shameless youths advertising themselves in newspapers and accurately quoting their preferred age categories. In this case, fourty and above women are hot cakes. The youths are not ashamed that after the adverts have done their job and hooked them up, they will, in turn, become sex pests addicted to easy money and exposed to all kinds of dangers!
Young Kenyan blood looking for whites know where to pull them from – Salsa clubs. Recently in a club, a youthful dude jumped in for a Salsa dance with hands tightly locked as if to safe guard a white chick he was targeting beside him. They giggled and fondled before linking up in unison. What became immediately apparent was not their “love at first sight” but their age difference. The woman was an “oldie”, complete with wrinkles down her face and marked signs of senility dotting her thin body.
You Could Hit the Jack-Pot or get Packed in a Plane for Deportation
I pay my entrance fee and take a comfy and central seat to face the dance floor. In a short while, more similar couples approach. Salsa beats are vibrating, stealing away the evening. Both novice and veteran dancers give out their best as they strategically look for prey to be led to the Hotel bed later for hanyaring in exchange for cash. Life has changed and the boy prostitutes aka sex workers are doing it openly.
This is the famous Hearts Club in Moi avenue, best known as “Salsa Sunday Refugee”. The Club has free coaching and dancing sessions. For some reason, the coaches are all young boys and their trainees are women, most of them whites. As a spectator, I was in for a free dance. Salsa dancers are real entertainers. Interestingly, half of the boyz are hooked to white chicks. A clear observation is that their best Salsa moves continually earn them a ticket in these chick’s beds and after doing what they know best, they earn extra points to enable them drive their cars and weekend outs. It’s tragic to say the least! Young people are getting spoilt because of poverty and lack of opportunity. For them, hanyaring whites is a kind of profession and they do it in style.
The future-focused ones push for college education. That is, if they are from needy families. This leaves them with something to show after the oldies are placed out of the country. Those whose parents can afford school fees see no further than partying. They party and “bed-dance” more than studying. The oldies leave them both empty handed and empty minded. Those “fleshing up” with Kenyan Mamas are not luckier as the Mamas soon get bored or decide that it’s time to get faithful to their permanent partners. Don’t mind that these decadent youths are our Kesho’s leaders. It is a clear indication why we end up with half -baked , if not, useless leaders.
Girls are not better mannered. A recent research shows that university students are more frequent in the famous sex streets. Some go to an extent of sneaking in men in their college rooms during the day. A certain girl, whom I will call JJ, was quoted saying that “I am a designer girl, and to maintain my taste and style, I have to work extra, day and night”. JJ says that sometimes, she is forced to make out in her room to balance her studies and business. That’s to say, she studies in between clients.
Most of this fun-searching cartels are in marriage institutions. Women have, in recent times, followed the men’s bold step of having fun outside marriage. Some women are looking for money and some are looking for fun while, in the case of Ngambo, others are looking for papers. Whether in Kenya or in Stockholm, we are in the love era and, during the excursions, the fundamental issue is whether you will be smart enough to get what you want and get away unscathed or whether you will become another loser and get yourself packed in the plane for deportation.
If you are smart, you could get your papers and jump out. If you are slow, the woman could fly with your “paper baby” and leave you stranded and paperless. You could go down with an infection in Kenya in the process of doing a sick oldie who can no longer be done Ulayani or play your cards well and scoop the jack-pot by fixing an oldie on a Kenya sex tour and making away with Euros, Kronas or even Francs!
Shiku Steve
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Its sad to see how far this thing called money is taking our kids
Kudos!,Shiko.your discriptive observations of Nairobi night life and its “SODOM AND GOMORAH” activities involving gold diggers……and the “RAT “like lifestyle to go with it, is well portrayed in your narrative.i might add that in the quest of looking for easy lifestyle, one never laeaves un-scarthed.In the game of life it is your positive human and humane subconcious that prevails.I summise by saying LETA MORE STORIES SHIKO.
I didn,t know that this rot was also in Nairobi.We normally associate these kind of behaviours with the coast so thanks for puting it into light.I must say that I am suprised by the response to your article and have been wondering why are comments so arid this time while you write such an informative article?I cant help thinking that most people got what they were not waiting for namely gossip and vitriol on your former.The seats were warm for the blogg version of jerry springer show.hahaha
KSB: Well said.
Noll åtta, you have surely cracked me up. There are crowds at KSB that thrive in “sordid avarice” because they thrive in dirt and enjoy stabbing their perceived enemies hard in the back while laughing all the way to the loo. When challenged by such splendid writing from Shiku, they simply get sick since their brains can’t absorb the high level of abstraction.
Kenyan teens using Viagra:
NAIROBI, Kenya, Oct 6 – “Manze inabidi jo. Hizo matembe hunisaidia sana, at least masupa wasinichekelee (I must use them- sex boosting pills- as they boost my confidence so that I don’t become the laughing stock among ladies).”
http://www.capitalfm.co.ke/news/Kenyanews/Kenyan-teens-using-Viagra-6037.html
Shiku, your informative piece has prompted me to read more about “the other side” of Nairobi, and one story has shocked me. It bears the testimony of a male prostitute whose customers include top religious leaders in Kenya. Boys as young as 12 years old also engage in prostitution. Read on…
“John Mathenke was once arrested for being gay but, after failing to pay the customary bribe, was forced to have sex with the policeman. He had an orgy with a priest who publicly excoriates homosexuality, along with five other Masaai boys. And his Arab trader clients curse him during the day, but come back looking for sex at night”.
http://this.org/blog/2009/08/06/kenya-gay-sex-workers-prostitution-hiv-aids/
if we reallly want to live as community, then whats is it wrong for kutafuta wampenzi? just cheki huyu dame moment 151…??? dame mpoa ama
its Sad Mombasa sex endemic flew non stop to Nairobi. But while we blame all this sex mannarism on poverty,dont you think we should blame it on the victims mind thinking? why should you live a life you cant afford?
@ Munyoti, Nothing wrong with kuhanyana,but the outcome is ugly,especialy when our future leaders are tarnishing their lives. On your note,in today’s paper-star, a bishop in Kisumu was caught in a hotel with a cop’s wife-by the cop.Following a tipoff, the cop stormed the hotel,but the receptionist was reluctunt to let him to the room. The cop flushed out his pistol and the receptiosnist fled off. He got them doing their favorite. They say,stolen goodies are sweet and juicy.
He caused a commotion that attracted a big crowd,especially the youth who are always ready to `stone’ act. This time they dint throw stone,but forced the lovers to strip and walk around the city naked. With blood oozing from their bodies, they were forced to halt and kiss. At the police station,no case could be filed. It was annouced that,its very legal for two married people to hanya each other as long as they have an agreement. Interesting!
What followed when the woman got home,only the devil-her lawyer can reveal. But honestly,I did admire this cop.Many in such situations,like we have heard before,shot to kill. They dont have time for embarrassing the lovers.
For the bishop,obviously he went to his wife with the explanation of ” you know I dont love her,Its the devil who attacked my mind,lets just fast and pray.”
Arent men lucky?
If People want Money, Pussy and papers i say let them!
We are all Slaves of the Dollar and we are all in need of
pressure release from our Makende´s , Men and Women!
MALAYA´S ARENT WE ALL IN SOME WAY, SHAPE OR FORM
Assasin Say So!
Six pupils at a school in Butula District have been made pregnant by a classmate. Area children’s officer Aston Maungu said all the Class Six girls had pointed a finger at the 16-year-old boy.
http://www.nation.co.ke/News/regional/-/1070/667024/-/7myypp/-/index.html
Why is sexuality seen as sin and something evil?If we were really that `clean“why are we having so many sexual-related problems.AIDS/HIV ,single mothers and street children is are very big issues in our society because people can not do without sex.Prostitutes are a good group that come forward and accept their own sexuality,our forefathers did acknowledge that it was very necessary because they allowed polygamy.Today we hold on to the religious beliefs which makes us hypocrites,“sinners“,murderers through abortion and bring hate towards each other.
We should look down deep inside ourselves ,our thoughts and mentality,where we will find out no matter what we do or say ,we are never going to have a mankind without sexuality.Let us change sexuality issue from negativity to positivity.What do I mean? Shame,evilness and sin is what we see in a person ,whereas we should see it normal,come up with safer methods and not to see a person as evil.
“An alternate vision?,”
Thank you, Shiku, for sharing your thoughts on this issue. I can see how poverty and the lack of opportunity could easily make the pursuit of money and an easier existence one’s top priority in life. And when such is the case–when people old and young don’t work toward forming meaningful relationships based on feelings of love and compassion but rather on personal gain–the world becomes a sad place indeed.
Even in wealthy countries such as my own, love and money and the love of money are all confused together in ways similar to the way you’ve described here. I hope that, through our communicating together another vision of the future where money is not the meaning of life, love might be restored.
Love,
Emily
Shiku,your article is quite interesting. It does seem strange that it took me awhile to figure out what ‘papers’ you were talking about, but I see what you mean. I think that it does happen a lot but hopefully some do find something real and lasting instead of the ‘do me, I do you” thing you described.
It is a sad indication of the times when our youths seem to want to turn to easy money instead of honest work. We need to somehow show that the feelings of working an honest day outweigh the fleeting feelings of being flush for the moment bring…
Are there many of these clubs in each city or is it limited to a major city/cities?
Maria
Dame,I disagree to agree on your post.You are very right, we can not live and live well without sex. Infact sex heals breaking relationship.And it is out of sex that you and I are communicating. Thus,sexuality aint negative nor is it evil. Its is the style and approach,mind and attitude that package it as negative and evil. Take for examples the pupils who get impregnanted but an innocent but ignorant classmate. Isnt this negative,especially on the lifes of the girls,who must drop out of school while the boy continue enjoying his education right?
Isnt it evil for men to lure slum children for sex? check out whats happening at mukuru wa Njenga slums. Its saddening.
Are you telling us that ,its indeed okey for students to practise prostitution in colleges to cater for lavish life styles just because they have accepted their sexuality?
While HIV is an outcome of `misused’ sex, single parent hood is not. Most children find themselves without fathers or mothers due to accidents or bitter marriage failures.Others- and a larger number back home-is out of choice.
Sex for food in Nyeri slums:
Mothers with nothing to feed their children actually tell their daughters to make the best of it. “Some mothers encourage their daughters to go out and sell their bodies, so long as they bring back some food,” said Ms Janet Mueni, 26, who lives in Witemere.
During the day, young men are a rare sight in these slums. They are out in the town looking for casual jobs, we were told. The few left behind are mostly drunk on the cheap chang’aa. Most of the time, therefore, only mothers and children are left behind, to spend long hungry days inside the poverty-ravaged mud-and-wood hovels, easy prey for sex pests high on illicit brew.
“They openly stop the little girls and offer money to buy food in exchange for sex,” said Ms Janet Nyokabi, 45, another resident. As shocking as this phenomenon is, it is not new.
Five years ago, an elderly man in Witemere was convicted of sexually assaulting three girls aged 10, 8 and 7, and infecting them with a venereal disease. When he was caught, the culprit is said to have retorted: “I do not go for them; they come to my house on their own volition.”
http://www.nation.co.ke/News/-/1056/671982/-/item/0/-/7xe0nfz/-/index.html
I fully agree with Macharia in contesting Dame’s approach to sexuality. Yesterday The Nation Newspaper revealed shocking sex habits among Kenyan teens which might make her think again. The story is here:
Girls as young as 12 are selling their bodies for petty things such as mobile phone airtime, chips and even sanitary pads.
And many are opting not to use protection, even though they are fully aware of the dangers of unsafe sex.
They are also sleeping with different partners: Some admitted having as many as six sexual partners in six months. What’s more, they’re spending almost as much energy keeping their actions secret from parents and guardians, a new survey revealed on Tuesday.
Instead, they prefer to get and share information about their increasingly risky sexual behaviour with friends, says the study by the Centre for the Study of Adolescence.
http://www.nation.co.ke/News/-/1056/671974/-/unyogd/-/index.html
Two Kenyan men on Saturday became the first gay couple to wed in London. Charles Ngengi, 40 and his bride, Daniel Chege Gichia, 39, became civil partners under the controversial Civil Partnership Act which came into effect in the UK in 2005 allowing couples of the same sex to have legal recognition of their relationship.
http://www.nation.co.ke/News/-/1056/673614/-/uo10l1/-/index.html