For Kenya Stockholmers in the know, there is a general explosion of scandals doing the rounds in Stockholm. Some of the scandals are so huge that even talking about them openly has become a taboo because of the reputation and responsibility of those involved while others are still in different stages of development.
As a matter of entertainment and because the scandals continue to flow like the Niagara water falls, it is time to touch on some of the most well known ones. We will avoid those based on ramous and hot gossip. Wakenya have entered into a season of scandals and it would be irresponsible for KSB to ignore this development.
Take the case of certain members of the Kenya-Stockholm Christian community (also known as Wafarisai) who are out-rightly living hypocritical lives while at the same time preaching to Wakenya to encourage them to become candidates for membership in heaven when they die.
There is a church group (that some Kenyans believe is a sect) which has had a very serious unit whose responsibility has been to “give advice” to married couples who enter into romantic crisis. If you feel that your marriage is not working, you are free to contact this group, pour out your problems “in deep confidence” and expect not just consolation but workable solutions that might rescue your relationship. To be exact, this group has been doing very well and many couples have benefitted greatly from their services. Little children have been saved from losing parents through “preventable divorces” and Wakenya have been happy.
The good work of the group has meant that more and more couples have been turning to the team with their problems. The Christian background of those involved in the mediations has given many Kenyan couples great confidence in the group because no one would open up private stuff (even in times of crisis) to someone or people likely to spend hours on the phone updating other Wakenya about “the latest” on Nani’s crumbling relationship.
Recently, a contact called KSB to accuse a leading member of the group of having “snatched her husband”with whom she has had a long standing crisis. According to the story, the woman contact has been receiving advise to help get her hubby “back on track” after he discovered that the husband has been ignoring his responsibilities.
What she didn’t know is that one of the female Wafarisai who has been helping them has actually been eying her husband and simply using intelligence gathered during discussions to entrench herself into her territory. Before the victim could figure out why her problematic hubby has been saying very nice things about the female counselor, her husband had already been taken.
The Counselor has herself been single. After the Mfarisai got convinced that she had trapped a new bull that could take care of her needs, she began to inform the loser to try and “think in another direction” because the hubby in question might need special treatment that may take ages before any good results could be seen.
“I am talking to him and I think he needs a lot of prayers. He is responding well but it might take time”, the Mfarisai told her victim but the victim did not understand exactly what the Mfariasi was saying because she was “talking in tongues”. In her ignorance, she thanked her for taking extra time to try and help them get back to real romantic business. Little did she know that the woman was already feeling some new and welcome warmth from non other than Mr. X.
“EXTENDED CONSULTATIONS”
The victim only woke up one day when another Mkenya called her and asked her what is going on because her husband is being seen too much with the female Mfarisai. The Mkenya did not know that the couple has been in crisis because the guy has been evading responsibility after making a baby with the woman. He still thought that he is a kijana and that despite the fact that he was being called “Baba” he still had all the traits of a kijana and so he still had the right to retain some of the privileges of a Kijana like taking off to a pub at very short notice to swallow once a call gets in that there is something a Kijana friend wants to discuss.
According to reports, the lady rebelled while the guy also stood his ground. The crisis deepened when the lady also starting playing the same game and dumping the baby to the guy – talk about giving him a taste of his own medicine. The guy became even more irritated.
The lady was out of work while the guy has had a long standing job. The employment equation only worsened the situation because the guy started using the fact that he is the main “bread-winner” to try and gain an upper hand on who was in control of the situation. The lady responded by arguing that without her little income from the Swedish insurance office (föreldrapenning if you have been there), all the bills could never be sorted out. She also argued that the guy works because she sticks with the kid and that if the guy could stick with the kid, she could also work and bring in even more cash. As the crisis deepened, the couple decided to seek help from Baggarmossen Church. Haya!
At first things were good because they were getting some helpful tips punctuated with bible reading especially on areas touching on marriage, the role of the man and the woman in the family and other stuff.
After some months, the lady victim reported that what she didn’t know was that the lady Mfarisai was working hard to make an impact on her husband in order to snatch him. She was telling the hubby that he “got a wrong woman” who doesn’t understand the psychology of African men. The guy started nodding. Mmmmmm.
We can’t be sure that these were the real words the woman helper used because we were not there but it reportedly went something like this: “Your main problem (the guy) is that the woman you married is Swedish in the mind and African on the skin. I hope you don’t cook or change diapers”. The Kenyan man began to see some good points. Suddenly, the guy started making appearances at the lady’s place for “extended consultations”. Whenever he came back, he did not want to eat because “he was OK”. He had been fed and probably boozed? The story is very long.
When the victim was informed that her hubby is too much in the company of the Mfarisai, she began to question him about the nature of the contacts. That is when the guy went bananas. He started spending nights away from home without explanations and turning off his mobile phone. In the meantime, the nice side of the Mfarisai continued to take up the better part of the guy’s defence mechanism.
Since this case is now “well known” the question is how it will impact on others who might need help from the Church or how it would affect the reputation of the good people at Bagarmossen church who honestly want to continue helping in the field of matrimonial crisis. We understand that the Mfarisai in question is now telling her colleagues in the Church not to “interfear with her personal life” because that has nothing to do with Jesus.
Today, the guy is together with the Mfarisai while the woman has moved out with the ka poor kid. When she began to confront the offending woman, the woman reportedly said that the only way to win the hubby’s heart is to try and understand the root of the problem and that this is what she is trying to do. The woman continued to deny any romantic relationship with the guy although at the moment, Wakenya in Stockholm know that the guy is taken. Guess who is involved?
Okoth Osewe
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