Swedish Neighbour: Nyambu is probably in hell right now
It truly breaks my heart to read at KSB all these harsh and sometimes hateful comments concerning the double-murder of Tevin and Elias. A blog for Kenyans in Stockholm should be about helping out each other and giving a supportive hand. Shouldn´t it? I was once myself a foreigner abroad for many years, and all of us Swedes who were in this situation were always trying to help each other.
Nevertheless, my 8 year old son had Tevin as one of his absolute best friends. They became instant friends when Tevin started pre-school here when the young family moved to Sigtuna. Since then, they have been in the same class and very close friends. Tevin was a very dear guest in our house and stayed over many happy nights! My eldest son who is 18 years old, stated the fact: “Tevin is the nicest, most polite and cute little boy I have ever met”. And I do agree. Sweet Tevin with an absolute lovely manner! My 8 year old son also stayed at Tevin´s place many times, and he always loved it!
For me personally, this is a terrible shock and I still feel numbed. A nightmare that I would very much like to wake up from while the whole story breaks my heart apart. I did not have Nyambu as a personal friend, but I sure met her numerous times over the years. Always with a warm smile, polite, nice and ALWAYS caring deeply for her little boys, no matter whether there was a snowstorm or not. She was ALWAYS there for her little boys!!!
The hard thing now for me is to answer questions when they come up. At first we talked about it all the time because it was a TOTAL SHOCK for the whole family and when it was known that Nyambu had in fact pleaded guilty, it became even harder for all of us. My son has been up and down, but we found a lot of comfort going down Mariakyrkan the whole family. The Church has offered a fantastic support throughout even though I am not really that religious. The question that hurts me most is: ”Mamma, I don´t understand? Nyambu var nog den snällaste mamma jag träffat” (Nyambu was the kindest person I have ever met). How do I explain when I have no answers?
So called friends must take the blame too
Reading through KSB, I find ugly and demeaning comments about Grace as a person. Is that relevant at his point? I think that nearly everyone living here in Sigtuna can vote that she was a much devoted mother and my heart goes out to her because despite the horrible, horrible thing she has done, I became sorry for her – truly sorry.
Which mother of two would commit this terrible act if she felt she had love, care and support around her???? Reading all comments at KSB, Nyambu could apparently be somewhat aggressive in words, but with the facts that we now know, who is she to be blamed? I have asked myself numerous times if I could have done anything, and I feel guilty, although we were just friends because of our kids. I called her so many times in the beginning of summer, but there was no answer. I also called during the summer because my son wanted to play with Tevin but It seems as though she had changed her number.
When school started, I asked my son EVERY day: “was Tevin there??” The answer was always “No, mamma”. At the end, my son came home saying: “I know what you´re gonna ask., no.. Tevin wasn´t there!” I blame myself for not going there personally because maybe, I could have done something. This feeling follows me EVERY night. But I believed the information we got, that the children were suffering from what is known as common child-diseases. How wrong I was!
But, I blame you so called friends even more, for not checking Nyambu out instead of publishing these hateful comments… I feel sick to the stomach.
We must be forgiving people. She did not do this out of pure evilness and I am absolutely sure about this! ABSOLUTELY!!! The beautiful, wonderful kids are so sadly gone and therefore I say this: we say our prayers to Nyambu, who is obviously (no doubt about it at all) going through a deep, deep, psychosis. This was an act of pure desperation and she probably is in hell right now. May that never happen to one of us, reading, or commenting about this tragic event.
Love, Mallin.
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Mallin women survive in worse conditions in Kenya so Nyambu being in a rich country should have asked for help.Let her suffer in hell. Murdering her children has not solved anything.Am a mother and if I have even the slightest thought to harm my kids, i would call the police to throw me in a cell and take my children away.
Surely, where were Nyambu’s so-called friends? They threw her off their main group terming her aggressive.Maybe she was crying for help. Now they want collective guilt for Kenyans…no way let them carry that burden on their own. Some of us had never heard of the name Nyambu till her weird actions. By the way Mallin, you don’t expect kind words for a baby-killer so don’t expect people to sing lovely praise tunes for her evil deed.
Please, stop commenting about Nyambu. There is a reason why “she” killed the kids. Am very sure that she didn`t do it herself, read how the brains work. Its another brain that said and did without her knowing. Har jobbat 30 år på mental hospital. People are sick and need help, never say that they are crazy.
yep, let her tell the judge that she heard voices telling her to kill those poor children. she should expect to be jailed for life.luckily she is not somewhere in USA.A lethal injection could have done the job for her.
I would have more pity for a drug addict who sold her children for drugs than Nyambu who drowned her children a few hundred metres away from home, then pretended to help the police look for them. She is a she-devil.
I love how they keep talking about what a great mother she was. A great mother doesn’t take her innocent children to the lake, strip them naked in the cold autumn weather, and then drown them.
Mental illness is stigmatized, which makes it difficult to admit to and seek treatment for. I have struggled with clinical depression in my life. I have sunk to the deepest depths of despair, feeling absolutely hopeless, feeling that my internal pain would never end. And I have contemplated suicide as my only escape. At my worst, I had four children – I was divorced from the father of my oldest three children who were nearly adults and was a “single mom” to a son whose father was verbally and physically abusive. (On a sidenote, he is a white, handsome, charming and successful attorney in So Cal…No one would guess his hidden side, that he verbally abuses women and was arrested for beating me so severely I was hospitalized.) After our relationship ended and at one of the lowest times in my life, severely depressed and isolated, I was suicidal. I honestly thought it was my only escape. Obviously, it wasn’t rational, but nonetheless it was very, very real to me at that time. Suicide was the only answer in my mind to the depth of my sadness/hopelessness. I came up with a plan to end my life and I struggled with what would happen to my young son. In my irrational mind, the only alternative was to take his life along with my own, sparing him of the pain he would feel if left behind. I came up with several scenarios…how to guarantee that we would both die. Many of you will judge me. Heck, I may even do so had I not experienced it firsthand. I always considered myself an amazingly loving mother, an over-achiever and the ultimate advocate for children. I studied Child Development and Law in college. I did not choose mental illness. I was not rational and my pain was immeasurable. It was only through the intervention of my physician after the domestic abuse and referral to a psychiatrist who provided medication and therapy that I was able to inch my way out of the darkness. My heart goes out to the family.
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my question is why kill the kids? she should have instead drowned herself
Talk to someone you trust about what you are feeling. Never keep it bottled up inside. May God Bless you, keep, and cover you now and forever more. Amen, amen, amen.
To single mothers everywhere: Please bond together to help, support, and empower each other.
osewe why pierce us again we were just healing from this. I remember i told you once that you are media and you can choose to join us together or separate us. block search comment like the one of lois whoever she is think she is not capable of doing it. all of us different “shock absorbers” for Nyambu they were weak n we cannt blame her. Ruguru answered the question most of us were asking themself.
KSB: You are now blaming me for what commentators are writing here. Editing is only done here when a commentator breaks the law which might land KSB into problems because I am legally responsible to ensure (as much as possible) that the law is not being broken. Don’t try try to kill the messanger or dismantle the platform. How will you feel if your comments are blocked because you are allegedly posting “useless comments that are dividing Kenyans” when in reality, you are just expressing your opinion? Think about it.
Through our chivalrous, puritan, illogical laws of child property, we give mothers a false sense of sole ownership of the children. We pretend it is in the best interest of the children, but it creates a mindset that allows for so many to accept and rationalize this type of behavior…when it is decided by the mother. Our society seems to get it right when it comes to holding fathers responsible for their actions, but so many it appears are afraid to do the same with mothers.
Perhaps if we saw children as joint creation between two people, and weren’t so quick to remove one of them as unimportant (and then wonder where that parent is when something goes wrong), then perhaps, just perhaps a little responsibility would eek into the brains of some of these people, and ultimate control would seep out. Children are not property of anyone. They are human beings entrusted to the two people that created them. When our laws and our courts reflect this, then maybe, just maybe the rationalization for killing ones children can be left in the jaded history of our broken-down system.
But until we hold responsibility and accountability for all parents, the privilege of thinking one has more rights (or all rights) to a child will continue to offer up the results of these cases. When a parent kills their child intentionally, they should be subject to the death penalty. I cannot think of anyone more deserving. In this particular case, we await the verdict. Nyambu has confessed killing her sons, yet many feel compelled to offer leniency…but why? Does it matter what story she comes up with? What leniency did the children have? I have no more ability to accept what she did and ask: Why did she do it? What mental state was she in? She must have been in a lot of pain. I DON’T CARE. YOU; DO NOT KILL CHILDREN.
I am to ask what was her status before all this.mentally,plus what we dread most H.I.V or cancer might be she new she gonna die and she never wanted her kids to suffer.I believe they should check on this line.Am a kenyan and I have seen people do this kind of action out of frustration.
Just a kind thinkerl
Why is this neighbour bothering a black negress race? Can she solve neger mass problems being perpetrated by European Anti black Utlannings Lagar From Spain to Scandinavian countries!Why care or feel pity to poor black slav es in Sweden?
Kamaru, it’s called freedom of press. I see no problem with the comment by Lois. Ruguru’s testimony might be helpful in court to get Nyambu a lesser charge for her alleged crime. Otherwise KSB is just a public opinion court, which does not judge any suspect or criminal. Visit the blog called Politisktinkorrekt (PI) and read worse things written by Swedes about Nyambu. Read comments from one Rebecca Smith from PI then you will know that KSB has responsible commentators:
“Why would you be happy that the forced sterilization of people with MENTAL ILLNESS was abolished. Do you know how often this shit occurs, where schizophrenic mothers kill their children? ALSO it is hereditary, and a documentary showed a woman had schizophrenia, her daughters, and all grandchildren as well. WHY? WHY would you want so many people suffering? One daughter almost killed he husband with a knife because she thought he was a demon. These people kill. They should not create MORE people like this.
ALSO this stupid bitch did not have a true mental illness. show more show less”
“I wish death penalty.”
Or Anders040: “Ja att hon är psykiskt sjuk råder det inga tvivel om när man kan mörda sina egna barn, fruktansvärt när sådant händer oavsett vem eller vilka som ligger bakom, djupt tragiskt, ska man se i ett längre perspektiv varför importerar vi psykiskt sjuka till Sverige? vi har nog med egna problem. Vi har ingen som helst koll på vad det är för människor som kommer till Sverige, nu behöver man inte ens styrka sin identitet utan är välkommen hit som papperslös och kan leva på bidrag och få skola,sjukvård,tandvård osv osv. Hela Sverige lider av en psykisk sjukdom och man tar död på urbefolkningen.
Hemskt är bara förnamnet och knappt det.”
Kamaru, Nyambu killed her children as per her confession. Mallin has written she is probably now in hell. Why don’t you ask why she thinks so? Because that is her opinion and Osewe has given commentators the right to write what they feel as long as no law is broken. Nyambu’s story has just begun and by the time a verdict will be reached, trust me, it will be a media scoop. Hers was a rare act in Sweden, so expect it to remain a hot story for a long time.
This story has just torn my heart apart. If people, male or female, are so over-whelmed with their own children, at any age, take them to the nearest hospital, turn them over to the person responsible for taking charge of these children, and then, parent, check yourself in to some kind of available treatment for your own problem, so that your chain reaction of destruction stops with you. This article is a testiment to the horrible “Domino Theory”. One bad choice can affect us all.
There is the small part of me that feels empathy for this woman who is obviously mentally ill – but how? How could ANYONE possibly take the life of a child let alone two! Crazy is not strong enough a word!
What was so bad that Nyambu had to kill her babies, and to top it off she tried to lie about it by accompanying the search team around Sigtuna? I am a mother and children depend on their parents for protection, yet she murdered hers. People who murder children shouldn’t get rights. If it was my choice I would have pictures of her kids in her cell. She would have to look at them every time she opens her eyes. Let her suffer for life.
What in the world was Nyambu thinking? There are people in this world every day wishing that they could have children and cannot for whatever reason. How can you take something that you cannot give? Nyambu, yes God will forgive you and everyone else should as well. When God gets through dealing with you, you will wish you were dead as well. Rest assured your day is coming. Yes you also deserve to get what the court system presents down to you. So when you are praying be sure you ask God for his forgiveness on what you did. God forgives everything but blasphemy. God will even forgive MURDERERS!
I don’t buy the excuses that she had no way to provision for the boys-she would have been eligible for welfare from Sigtuna Kommun. She was already having housing and perhaps quite a bit of childcare. You don’t just wake up one day and find yourself two kids down the road with non-present father(s), without a job, and no friends. These things do happen but not usually all at once, rather they are a progression of unfortunate events over time or sometimes the outcome of continued bad choices over time. She could have turned the kids over to foster care or given up her parental rights in adoption.
Okay, I am absolutely disgusted at this story, and for the people who have sympathy for this sick ass piece of crap that calls herself a mother. Every parent gets overwhelmed with many issues. Trust me I know all about it. I am 26 years old and a full time college student and full time mother of four – yes I said four children. Ages 6, 4, 2, and 1. Most women my age cannot even handle one child let alone four at young ages while also juggling college full time. Have I been depressed? Yes. Have I been stressed out? yes. Have I thought about killing my children and then trying to cover it up by staging a fake accident, only to confess later? Hell no.
My place as a woman and a mother in this world is to always ensure that my children are protected. If I absolutely cannot take care of them, I wouldn’t just kill them. There are so many women in the world with fertility issues that can never have children. And people who have them are killing them. Talk about not appreciating such a remarkable gift. I have no sympathy for Nyambu at all. I understand about getting a child for papers to live in Sweden. But why kill them later? I opened my arms and heart to each of my children and made due with what life threw at me. There were so many other options for this woman that would have kept those babies alive. Why didn’t she tap into them?
Please tell me I am not reading what I think I am reading. People are actually feeling sympathy for her and justifying what she did? Give me an example of a mother, especially those with more than one child, who does not feel overwhelmed. There are solutions other than murder. These children did not ask to be born. That was a decision she made. Those children’s lives ended at the hands of the person whom they loved unconditionally and was supposed to always be able to trust. She killed them but then was able to plot an elaborate story to try to cover up the murders by denying. This is not someone who was overwhelmed. If she could cook up the whole story then she had enough “sense” to find someone to care for those children. The woman confessed to doing this. If she had not confessed I would have said possibly she was innocent, but she confessed.
I honestly am shocked that anyone would sit there and defend her actions let alone offer prayers for her. We are seeing mothers end their children’s lives much too often and the excuse is always the same – I felt overwhelmed. I am a mother. I have felt overwhelmed numerous times and more so than most people could even imagine, but there is no way I would harm one of my children. There were other options. No sympathy for her from me at all.
I have no sympathy for this so called mother. I have 5 children and would never do this to them. It’s not their fault what life threw at her; they didn’t ask to be here. I’m sure someone in her family or a friend would have cared for those angels. I was a single mother of 3 children for 10 years until I met my husband, then a year later we were expecting twins that had come without planning. I lost my job but we are still are struggling with the income from my husband. We keep pressing on and would never harm anyone or our children as it’s our responsibility to care for and protect them.
Easybee You should be deported back to your third World Country where the role of women in these Primitive societies is just breeding babies !Why dont you use Family-plann ing methonds?Have you ever heard of DEPO-PROVERA>Condoms?Why do you love un-protected Sex Whether by your Husband?
You better enlist yourselve in free Swedish Education to get lid of your third-world Primive thinking and mrural village Market Politics!
# 23, thats a good one, you made me laugh big time. Personally i’m a mother of 4, and i don’t see anything wrong with having more than one child. Neither do i see it as being primitive of me.The joy i derive from having my kids makes whatever challenges i may face on my daily encounters seem like a drop of water in the ocean. At the end of the day you got the two most greatest gift of all, gift of life and gift of love.This is a love so sweet that should never be compromised.
Comments to Valery and other people from Malin:
Did you actually READ WHAT i WROTE??? Where does it say that I defend her actions? That I sing her praise? Nowhere, because I don´t, Learn to read properly before making stupid comments, please.. I merely say, that it is a terrible, terrible tragedy, and I am very sure she was in a bad state of temporary mental illness.Through our children, I met her on a very regular basis, and none of our parents in school would NEVER have thought there was somethong wrong. We are responable parents, and I would NEVER had let my little son stay overnight at her place if I thought that she one day would turn into a child murderer! You do understand that, I hope? What I mean by saying a prayer for her, is for people to understand that she most probably doesn´t fully understand what she has done to her precious little boys right now. And I say it again, I think it´s a nightmare, and I among others are living it ,trying to find answers for our children. But try not to be so judgmental all the time. I am trying my best to see the lonely, desperate woman behind this tragedy.
Also,”Stop commenting about Nyambu”. What kind of a comment is that? Would you rather lay on the couch and forget the old story??? If we don´t care, how can we then change things for the better???
Malin
There is nobody not even The Police and the spysicians (RättsInstitution)who could cracks) ( the Mystery in this Woman(Nyambu) This Woman went to Kenya to meet the so called>Love experts that is (Wich Doctors)who has connened millions of Kenyans both Elites and illitrates in fake (ART) of earning easy money by claiming they can offer (MITISHAMBA) (WITCH) to women in love affairs (to keep and retain)TAME their irate husbands!
But the worst happens once you undergo these ratuals from Wa-ganga and mixe it with Religion Cults (As Nyambu ) belongs to A Religious Cult with very strong African beliefs and mythology it destroyes ones falculty of the brain. Many East African men/women belives in WitchKraft .Its only Nyambu and her clöose friend/friends who knows What was disturbing Nyambus Marriage with her Swedish Snubbe>Hubby .
Witch craft has destroyed so many families in Africa as a hole . Hence many families still believe in witch Craft and Once marriages turn sour people turn to witchCrafts and other relifgious Cilts hoping to solve their love family matters and relationship.
Witch Craft Ni Hatari Kwa Usalama Wako Na Familiya Yako!
Worked in Africa #23: did you understand my comment? Have you ever fed my family to insult me? Can’t you get your message across without being abusive? You carcass of a human being! Get your twisted mind examined. Depo Provera is more harmful to women than being helpful. But you don’t know; that is why you mentioned it. Go and use it yourself, not me! You don’t know how the twins got into the picture. I was using birth control pills, yet that happened!
Malin #25: You are the fool here. Read and re-read my comment. Not even once have I mentioned your name. This story has been run since Nyambu committed the act of killing her children. My comment was based on what a section of commentators have written from the beginning. You need reading glasses and a well-functioning brain instead of insulting smarter people than you.
Please Valery… I might need glasses but my brain is in excellent condition, thank you! You make me laugh, really! Go fool someone else instead, it´s obvious to anyone that you refer to my article. Other than this comment I refuse to steep down to your level.
the bible says “do not judge” who are we to judge if the woman was sick or she was unprotective to her kids? This whole issue of this tregedy has turned to be a battle ground which i think the two little angels are watching and wondering!! Rest in peace our two angels
Malin, blame your myopia.
This woman wasn’t overwhelmed. This woman wasn’t unsupported or any other excuse you give her. She’s sick in the head and ought to have put the kids in a room and walked away, or give them to another family, or go to a social service of some sort for help and support. She killed her children – Two children who had no way to fight back. Imagine her looking into their before drowning them. I can’t even imagine doing that to my son and I’ve been more than just overwhelmed by him. I’m a 24 year old mother of an almost 9 month old. I’ve often been up for over 24 hours rocking him during his colic, had to hold him and soothe him as his teeth hurt him, had to deal with him fussing and not wanting to sleep at all. I’ve dealt with little to no support from surrounding family. It doesn’t excuse what this woman did. PERIOD. She killed her kids and then covered it up. She came clean when she saw there was NO other outcome and that her lie was exposed.
All mothers go through some form of PPD, money stresses, family stresses, no support (or very little), lack of sleep, being overwhelmed, and whatever else you want to give her as an excuse. Kids don’t come with manuals, but if they did, killing them in ANY fashion wouldn’t even be in it. If you are overwhelmed, get help. It’s just like telling someone who just shook their baby to death that its ok, they were stressed out from all the issues associated with new parenthood and dealing with young children. It’s NEVER ok to do anything that will hurt your children. You are blessed with beautiful miracles and you throw it away like its garbage with the excuse that you are overwhelmed.
Selfish – the mother is selfish. If she wasn’t going to care for them, she wasn’t going to let anyone else have them either, else she could have turned them over to foster care or for adoption, and she wasn’t going to take care of them either. I don’t buy the excuses, she was centered on herself and what she found to be acceptable or not acceptable for her comfort level. If she were depressed, her goal may have been a murder-suicide. If her goal was to provision for the boys, she would have turned them over to foster care.
Sorry, if you are depressed and your only option is the cowardly act of murdering your two beautiful children, then maybe you shouldn’t get pregnant to begin with. The kids had a father, she had a mother. She could have done something less selfish to resolve the situation. Any mother who could dispose of her children, regardless of how down and out she is, makes me ill.
Who gave her the right to kill (especially her own kids) and spare her own life? How could she live with herself? Disgusting!
While I don’t understand this mother’s actions (like others who posted here, I would lay down my life for my children) I can certainly choose to feel compassion for her. She must have been in terrible emotional pain and she is surely suffering now. Is what she did right? Absolutely not. But my judgement of her won’t bring those children back and all of this anonymous anger towards someone I’ve never met will make the world a worse place.
Lottie…
I you refer to my article, and I suppose you do,( since you make a comment?) I write NOWHERE that there is an excuse for what she has done.I NEVER SAID THAT THIS IS OK. NEVER. I personally knew and loved those children, and Tevin was one of my sons best friends.
But mental illness can unfortunately occur very quickly, and I THINK this is what happened, sadly enough. I fully understand what you are going through with your kid, I have been in that situation myself, and fully understand the struggle.
Once and for all, I DO NOT excuse Nyambu for what she has done. I am living through the worst time of my life with haunting images of what happened to the little boys that rainy night at Munkholmen. Despite how I´m feeling, which is rather irrelevant, my first priority as you all, is to be a mother to MY precious sons.
I never met (Nyambu) after the summer, and it seems obvious that something happened to her after coming back from Kenya.. As I´ve said before, having met Grace on a regular basis, she WAS a sane, kind and loving mother to her sons. rest assure of that. Maybe we all get our answers during the forthcoming trial?
Malin: Have you ever written before for public readership? It seems this is the first time you are writing. Just keep off quipping. Let people comment instead of injecting innuendo as mentioned by Valery. This is not the first time Nyambu is being commented on. Osewe did parts 1 and 2 of the same, yet he never interfered with the commentators. You seem to think you have a monopoly on Nyambu’s story thereby feeling obliged to answer all and sundry. Just chill and let people comment. Nobody is answering you directly but opining because this is a long thread with segments. You have written your bit, so don’t bother with who is writing what. KSB commentators are brilliant enough; don’t prompt them.
Refer to the original story and you will get references to internal family problems blamed for her stress that might have eventually led to the killing. You did not write about that yet there are people who did earlier, thus the reference by Lottie. Your piece is just part of the jigsaw puzzle, so don’t bore us by correcting commentators.
Am shockd 2 knw pple came to knw the truth bt wat hav shockd me most is 2 hear nyambu did thru away a lady n a baby out of the house in the middle of the nyt,coz b4 she left 2 sweden i can rmbr thr wz a tym i had a fyt wit my hubby n bcoz nyambu mum is my aunt she askd me 2go n stay @ her place in juja 4 sm days so that she wud later knw hw she cud help me so as 2 move on wit my life,bt aftr 2 days she came bak hom late @ around 1.30 n watever hr kids tld hr i don n the kids r wambu,nyambu n jojo,i waz a slp n i waz woken up by my aunt’s screams n she came 2 the room i wz slpn n tld me 2 pick up my kid n go away,by the my son wz almst 1 yr,as i wz packn my bag she calld me all sorts of names n the sad thing is that i did not even hav bus fare neithr did i knw juja @ all as i walkd out of the gate i cud hear children laughn @ me n tryn 2 make thr dog come aftr me bt i thank God it nvr did
Years have passed, but I’m still haunted by the tragic death of Tevin and Elias.
The so called mother is the most devilish person I’ve ever heard about and this is definitely the worst murder I’ve ever heard of!
How can anyone, except a monster push two kids into cold, dark water and let them die?
See their little faces expressing panic and agony while drowning.
The last memory they got of their mother, was her pushing them to death. What last thoughts went through their little heads?
And then, she didn’t even have the guts to jump into the water herself, “because she was scared of water”!?
What can be more scary than seeing two kids that desperately drown?
Didn’t seem that depressed finally.
Mental illness, perhaps…but strong enough to live on and even make new children. ( I hope she won’t take these kid’s precious lifes as well ).
The murderer seems to have lots of support and there are lots of blabla about that God forgave her etc.
But my God doesn’t forgive child murderers, ever!!!